We want to turn negative habits into positive ones as a prelude to the larger freedom of moment to moment perception and wisdom. Being in the here and now. But the question always arises how to do this. We ask how if a negative experience has been created in our unconscious memory and the spontaneous recall continues to trouble the present how we can stop it from resurfacing. We often believe that we are imprisoned by an unchangeable past. We are not. Rumination reinforces the problem as in Western psychology one recites and reflects repeatedly one's problems. We have to let old wounds heal , it does not mean repressing them but it means that what is not fed will wither.
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I began this blog with the idea that though some women may have been abused they may have still been successful at meeting their goals and dreams but not successful at a long term committed relationship. If you find yourself in a situation where your "value" and accomplishments are still for his ambition, his goals, his fame or what have you; may feel used and even in a power struggle that is verbal and emotional abuse. This is the time to become aware of the difference between your inner self and external self. To become ultimately free you must be honest as to what the "catch" is that keeps you attracting a relationship that is not of true partnership, caring, sharing and loving. Once you find your true inner self you will set yourself free of limitations. You will have a solid foundation. It is a process and requires honesty on your part of how and from where you have been functioning. Because everything is energy you must let go of the current relationship to free space for what you really want.
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